My whole life I’ve been doing activities for others.
I got out of bed because my mum/dad told me to.
Then I got out because school told me to.
Then work/training partners/university told me to go out of the house.
Lately I’ve had periods with no commitments to other people whatsoever, and I noticed I became a ghost version of myself; lazy, sluggish, unfit, unwell and tired. It took a toll on my self-worth,
“I only care about my own health when I can show it to others?”
There is nothing wrong in that, but it was frustrating as I would have periods alone and not feel good or energized after them.
I had a deep moment of understanding from the well renowned footballer Thierry Henry speaking about his hardships and how his whole life was built around pleasing his dad by being the best player. I found it interesting how he said he never smiles when he scores, he’s angry or neutral when he poses because that’s a given, “he is supposed to score” it is expected and that’s his duty. Whenever he makes an assist and passes the ball to someone who scores, he smiles. Doing things for others is also a great thing, obviously, but it’s important to know to do things for ourselves as well.
I recommend the entire interview, put it on while you cook, drive, fall asleep or during a juggling endurance. Or what the hell, put an ambient track in the background and dance to the interview!
Morning routine
Starting the day with a fail - I was setting myself up for disaster. I used to scroll my phone in the bed, stay in bed for an hour after waking up and postponing my day. The day is here and what I’m basically saying is that I don’t want to partake. I want to postpone it for later. Lay here do nothing.
Now I don’t snooze. Alarm rings I wake up, because I got things to do.
I’m 30 years old and just now starting to understand the power of routine and discipline. Some things we just need to tell ourselves that we have to do because we know that we’re going to feel so much better afterwards and it’s a ‘non-negotiable’. In the pandemic I started religiously making my bed, and it’s huge! Every night when I come in and see my bed made I get so happy, and also it means you start the day by ticking off a box. Try it! It does wonders. I’ve expanded on my morning routine taking inspiration from Mel Robbins. It’s simple, but extremely efficient. Definitely recommend
Summary:
Do not snooze, get up when alarm rings
Make the bed
High-five yourself in the mirror and set an intention
Go outside for 10 minutes, preferably walk in a fast pace
Make progress on a project, at least 5 minutes
Prompt - Let me know how your morning routine looks!
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With Love,
Julian 🧡