This weeks topic for me has been jealousy, understanding this emotion and also its partner envy which are often mixed up.
Jealousy - the fear of losing something you have
“I get jealous when you flirt with other men because it triggers a fear of losing you as my partner. ”
Envy - wanting something that someone else has
“I get envious when I see how you handle that situation with ease because I want to be easy-going like that. I also get envious when I see you have the newest iPhone and when you have 3 million readers on Substack.”
Both of these emotional states focuses on what we don’t have and are fear-based but also extremely common. The goal is not to never feel these feelings but to better know how to handle situations where these emotions arise.
And as these emotions are based on lack, it means that they cannot co-exist with abundance. If I’m able to identify and accept these emotions when they arrive, I can shift my focus over to the love that I have around me (and inside me) and the jealousy or envy will disappear. Magic!
Now I am looking forward to the moments when I feel envy or jealousy coming to me, so that I can practice acceptance and shifting my focus over to love.
Acceptance of things as they are
This week I’ve been frustrated and had a lot of anger come to me as a result of fighting against what is. I sat down with myself and started writing and feeling and accepting and listening and I realized that if I start accepting the situations in my life and sending love to it instead of stubbornness of wishing it to be a different way, I will have a lot less inner turmoil and it’s worked wonders!
I feel so much calmer when I accept that the people around me are as they are and I cannot change them. They all make their choices and it’s also very freeing to not have to think about making choices for them but accepting their decisions so that I can simply focus on myself and my happiness.
I would like to invite you to make a small meditation where you close your eyes for a moment, feel your body and ask yourself this first question:
What can I do right now that will create more peace and happiness?
Then expand to include this question:
What do I need right now?
I really wish for you to embrace your weird quirky side, what makes you special and remember your needs are important to the world however crazy they may sound or seem. I might have shared this before but this short video explains how standing out, listening to your needs and doing your thing can be so important not only for you bot for others as well. I wish you all the best on your journeys and as always, share the newsletter if it resonated 🧡
From my heart to yours,
LovingJ